I always thought why do we need a special day in a year to celebrate relationships like valentine’s, friendship day, mother’s day, fathers day and so on. I think relationships should be cherished every single day of life. But over the course of time, I realised that we get so lost in the cycle of life that those very relationships, which are the centre of our existence, are taken for granted by us. Forget about expressing our love to them, we don’t even acknowledge their presence around us. Having a day dedicated to them gives us a reminder that we should feel thankful and blessed for having these lovely people in our life who make life worth living for.
Take today, for instance. It’s 8th March, Women’s Day. When I googled to find who is the originator of this day, I came to know that women’s day goes back to as early as 1910. In some countries, it is a public holiday and some where else it is of no significance. In India, National Women’s Day is observed on 28 February in honour of Sarojini Naidu’s birthday.
What would have been the thought behind having a day dedicated to all the women in the world?? Is it a day to acknowledge the biology of women, those 5 days of menstruation, 9 months of pregnancy, menopause and so on?? Pseudo mindsets around these are changing with time.
Is it to celebrate the achievements of women in various fields across the globe like sports, business, science, defence, music to name a few? But, achievements are celebrated as and when they are achieved by family, friends and even media.
Is it to be grateful for having a loving and caring mom, wife, sister?? Well, we do have Mothers day, Valentine’s, Rakshabandhan for that.
So, what do we, as women, expect on women’s day? How do we celebrate it? Are we happy with the discounts on shopping and eateries? Is it enough for us to spend a memorable afternoon hanging out with our female gang? Does a nice pampering session at a salon make us feel content? Or do we want something more? On second thought, why do we want more? Why can’t we DO more??
Yes, as women, we should help empower another women. We need to stand by each other to make a strong support system. It’s not wrong to have fun and unwind but we do that all year round on festivals, birthdays, anniversary and the special dedicated days. Women’s day should be more than that. I want to make a difference in another woman’s life. I want to help her change and break free from some traditional practices which have become a part of her. I don’t know how much I will be able to do and what impact it will have but I wish to try at least and see where it takes me.I have a few things in my mind which I plan to do in the next one year, starting from today, that will help me and another woman around me.
The first one is educate one woman about menstrual hygiene.
A few days back, I noticed a stain on the clothes of a woman on the street. I know that she works as a house help. When I told her about it, she simply said that this is an everyday thing for her in periods. The cloth she uses has soaked. She will change once she reaches home. I asked if she uses a sanitary pad and she said no. She said it’s a waste of money. That’s when I realised that this maid doesnt practice good period hygiene because she doesn’t understand it’s importance. Even though she is capable of spending on a packet of sanitary pad, she doesn’t because of lack of awareness about it. So, my plan is to provide her with a packet of sanitary napkin for a few months and also educate her about it’s correct use and disposal. I hope once she starts using it, she will get used to its convenience and not think of it as waste of money. On a personal level, I want to switch to using a menstrual cup. It’s the most eco friendly way to menstruate and I want to give it a try.
The second thing that I want to do is give myself a gift. No, I don’t mean clothes, shoes, bag or anything materialistic. I mean the gift of good health. I have booked an appointment with my gynaecologist and in the next one week I will undertake all the necessary tests which are recommended for a 40 year old. I am someone who has never taken my personal health very seriously and though I realised it late, I want to take it forward from here on.
With this post, I encourage other women to engage in similar activities. Start small. It need not be something that takes up a lot of your time and effort. You just need to observe and you will find someone who needs your help with something. It could be anything, education, nutrition, personal hygiene, anything. Just reach out to them.
Happy Women’s Day ladies!!